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Fence sitter....

I still find myself in this "I'm not really sure about this" state of mind after watching Missrepresentation. Half of me is ready to go on this crusade, and let the world know. The other half of me is like - well whatever, I'll just make sure I don't think like that anymore.

 Fortunately, for me and others, we have such a powerful resources in finding truth.

 I am on a personal quest, to find truth in the jumble of information going around in my head. There have been very few times in my life where my personal thinking has been challenged to such an extent.  I also feel that there is a very specific dilemma added to LDS women. I am not the only one who has had these thoughts and concerns? Why am I getting a degree? What are my motivations? If these have never been questions in your mind girls... Ask them. Challenge your motivations. Make sure you are doing what you want to do.

 I am in no way becoming a fanatical feminist. I am not promoting that every women should drop what she is doing and work to become CEO's of companies, world known scientific, lfeed hungry countries, run marathons etc. Like I mentioned, I am on a personal quest to make sure that I understand what I want and what my Father in Heaven wants for me.

 I am graduating in December. It has always been my goal to have a Master's Degree. It has always been my goal to have a family. Can they fit together? I want to support my husband in his schooling and his career. Frankly... I just want it all. Right?

 As a challenge, I suggest that we, as women, be less judgmental of each other.  Though you may not agree with her choices and her choices are not your choices - maybe it's even completely opposite of what you would do - worry about your own choices. It is not our job to tell a women she ought to be at home starting a family. Maybe she would like to, and she can't. It is not our job to elevate ourselves above others, because we are educated and have a degree. It is our job to be in a working loving relationship with our Father in Heaven receiving personal  inspiration that will help us to meet our potential in the eternities.

 http://www.ted.com/talks/sheryl_sandberg_why_we_have_too_few_women_leaders.htm
I don't support all ideas of this talk, but feel that it has some great points:)

Comments

  1. Jeanette BagleyMarch 15, 2013 at 10:20 AM

    I am graduating in December as well and I struggled for a while with deciding what direction to go with school/family/work. I totally agree that it's a personal issue and we should be happy with whatever direction other women, especially in the church, decide to go. We just need to support each other in in this world and in our society where women tend to be the underdog.

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  2. KierstMarch 16, 2013 at 12:03 PM

    I totally agree that we should work to support one another and not be judgmental and to trust in Heavenly Father. Thanks for sharing!

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  3. Densley FamilyMarch 16, 2013 at 12:43 PM

    Loved it saige. Thanks.

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  4. ElizaMarch 18, 2013 at 1:43 PM

    Thanks for this post! I love what you said about challenging our motivations and not judging others. I also think we have an incredible gift as LDS women - the guidance of the Spirit help us make the best personal decisions.

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  5. Sarah CoyneMarch 20, 2013 at 4:48 PM

    Really great thoughts! I especially like the discussion on judging others, which I think we do WAAAAy too much of in the church!

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